Human Psychology

Clinical psychology is a subject that always exerts a pull on me. It was the next choice of mine when I opted for economics during my graduation. As such I am completely an inexpert in the subject. But the reason which always makes it act like a magnet is the fact that human psychology is something that is more than a science or an art. It is beyond any law, scientific outcome or any fixed tactic.

I remember my father having 6 pairs of white mice to conduct his experiments on them. I don’t know what he did achieve but it at least attracted my interest.

Well leave aside the state of mind of mice or of any other animals for that matter, let’s talk about human psychology. We start off being completely ignorant about the happenings around ourselves.

As toddlers we pay attention to every single damn thing but never try to figure out what those are. We feel miserable looking at birds flying through the morning dew but feel cheerful by tying them with a raw unbreakable cable & literally making the bird suffer a hell. “Feel” is a wrong usage I guess, as we never feel anything but just show different emotional expressions. A gigantic elephant or a lethal tiger becomes the role model. Ask any clinical psychologist without letting him know the age of the person, he would burst out referring it as a serious psychological disorder or if you are strong enough to listen then he would say the patient is off his head.

Coming into teen-age, we start “feeling” & become competent to justify our emotions. But then another problem arises. We become so conscious of our emotions that we lose control over our senses. Our minds become so jam-packed with a lot of ideas & thoughts that we act in a weird manner. We forget something which is generally known as a “Home” & otherwise stored as “Sweet Home” in the phonebook. We like to stay out as much as possible & feel the whole world is ours. We fall for every single person of the opposite gender. We first think of talking to them once, then friendship, then love & finally it boils down to one thing. I remember a hilarious quote. Men often give love for sex; women often give sex for love. Boys grow hair & girls cut down to look “cool”.  Animals are out, movie-stars, cricketers & rock stars suddenly make entries as role models. Without achieving a wee bit, we feel we have accomplished all of it.   Are not these signs of mental disorder? I mean why a normal stable human being would think like this.

Let’s move on now. All are out. Outlook, vigor, liveliness, dynamism, exuberance, enthusiasm, stimulation fade away all at once. Life seems so useless. It feels so pathetic. We feel we are the only responsible citizen of the society, the only person having a properly functioning heart of the whole humankind. We start becoming crabby about practically everything existing that is related to life. We maintain a to-do list always & make every effort, almost equally hard as Mahatma Gandhi did for India’s independence, just to have our own house & car like after that the life is over. After reaching the 3^rd or even 4^th stage of the Maslow’s need hierarchy, we again go back to the primary one; Roti, Kapda, Makaan n hmm. We like to end our lives as soon as possible ahead of the God’s schedule, the same life that we were enjoying about 5 years ago. Symptoms of mess again.

So the bottom line is no matter how hard we struggle, we will always come into sight as insane people. Better take it lightly and treat the life as it comes & as if every single event is the best that could happen with us.

Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly....  --G.K. Chesterton

To enjoy life, we must touch much of it lightly - Voltaire 

Life is not only about being incompetent to see the entire sight in the rear view mirror, it’s also about achieving the speed of a supersonic jet, still going strong & going all-out. – Lagnajit :)